I second the idea of mirroring God to those we interact with, and mercy is definitely one of those qualities of God we must share with others. I disagree God’s mercy does not allow for anger or is incompatible with it. I also disagree God’s mercy does not allow for judgment, debt, and even rebuke/correction. Here you’ve walked that blurry line where God’s mercy seems to be at odds with God’s justice. God’s mercy is not at odds with his justice in any way. They live together in perfect harmony. As Jesus showed us in the temple when he drove out the money changers, anger is clearly part of mercy. As Jesus showed us when he cursed the unproductive fig tree and it withered and died, judgment is also clearly part of mercy. As the Church shows us with the doctrine of purgatory, debt is also part of mercy. So yes, we should also present the merciful God who ever wishes to wash us all clean of our sin, but that comes after an acknowledgement of sin and it’s effects on the human soul and relationship to God are acknowledged and presented. What is odd to me is that most people whom I converse with that are believers, don’t have any trouble at all believing that God is merciful. In fact, they’re so convinced of his infinite mercy that they feel no need to go to confession or avoid mortal sin, because they are sure in their heart that God will see the “good person” they really are and forgive them even if they don’t particularly feel there’s anything to be forgiven for. It seems that today, what many Christians and agnostics have a problem believing is God’s justice. They find it hard to believe they really offended God by fornicating with their boyfriend. They find it really hard to believe their relationship with God has been badly damaged by their inordinate desire for money and all it provides. In a day when many believe they’re going straight to heaven when they die, I find it difficult to believe don’t know about God’s mercy. It seems to me it’s God’s justice they don’t know about.
These days, as a single parent and sole breadwinner, I often feel more masculine than feminine.
Working full-time, making every decision, paying every bill, driving myself everywhere, booking tickets for holidays, lugging the Christmas tree in - it's all completely de-feminising.
My friend Sophie, 46, who runs her own design company and is a single mother to two boys aged nine and 11, agrees.
She has been single for six years, since her husband left her for another woman.
Blonde, attractive and kind, she hasn't been on a date since he walked out.
'I have absolutely no idea how to be a woman any more,' she says. 'Because I run my business, my home and make all the decisions about the boys, I feel totally unfeminine.
'I'm terrified of dating as I have no idea how to behave.